“Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6) So many times this verse is read as a “whipping post” passage to someone who needs to learn “how to raise children.” Maybe it’s been used to you concerning your own child who has been rebellious in some way.
No matter who you are, you’ve probably been in a situation or known of someone who has been in a situation where they did do all the right things raising their children. They disciplined well, taught well, and did all they knew to keep their children in touch with God and a real relationship with Him–only to have the devil and his angels send influences into their lives which lead them astray and their life was ruined.
One of the lies of legalism is that the book of Proverbs is to be read as a literal “it-works-every-time” rule book. It’s just not true. They are general principles which I believe are meant to teach us how to live. They teach us the greatest way to live in the truisms of God’s best way for us. I believe they work in the general sense, but we all know of times when they just don’t seem to work like we would like for them too.
We can guilt ourselves into thinking that we just didn’t do it right is the reason for the failure, but God doesn’t want guilt, He wants trust. Trusting God when things go right is easy. Trusting Him when things go wrong is not easy, but it is in these times that we seem to grow in our trust of Him more than ever.
Not only does God desire trust from us when things are not working out like we think they should, He wants us to reach to those in our families who are hurting. It is so important for us as a church family to stand with each other especially when things don’t seem to be working for someone. The scripture says in Galatians 6:1-2 “Brothers and sisters, if someone in your group does something wrong, you who are spiritual should go to that person and gently help make him right again. But be careful, because you might be tempted to sin, too. By helping each other with your troubles, you truly obey the law of Christ.”