Adults are Stupid!

I’m sorry, I know I’ve always taught my kids that people are not “stupid.” We told our kids to never call people stupid, but I had never been a basketball referee during that time in my life. I think after today I have changed my mind.  By the way, the word “stupid” means “mindless.”

I’ve often said that if we took the adults out of youth league sporting events, things would be a lot nicer and would certainly go much smoother. Kids may get angry at you as a ref, but most of the time, after you explain what happened, they understand and would be forgiving–that is if the idiot adults would let them.

Here are some things that really bug me as a referee that adults do. (SARCASM ALERT!)

1. Parents who don’t know the rules of the game. When this happens, they feel it is their right, having paid to get into the game, to correct you as a ref on every rule in the book about which they have no idea.

2.  Coaches who don’t know the rules of the game. These guys (and gals) are really a load of fun to call for.  Every trip up or down the court, they are so willing to teach you the rules of the game.  Of course, they don’t really know them, but thinking they know them gives them the right to stop coaching and start refereeing.

3.  Coaches trying to live out their fantasies in their children. It just gives one a warm fuzzy feeling to watch a “dad” berate his child because they failed to set a screen, or make the lay-up, or dribble the correct way down the court.  These are such necessities in life for these children.  I think sometimes that these crazy people must have been awful when they played and are just taking it out on their child.  Or maybe they were the best in “the day” and expect their kid to be the same.  This year I’ve actually witnessed a “dad” storm the court and physically “jerk” a child by the arm off the court because they fouled a kid.  I should have “Teed” him up twice.  Once for leaving the coach’s box, and another for being an idiot.  His move so shocked me that both me and my partner were spellbound.  The president of the league saw it though, and that man is no longer coaching.

4.  Adults that spend more time teaching their kids about a sport rather than more important things in life. How many times I wished I could go back and correct his one in my life.

Well, there are a few.  Maybe you could add some to the list.  There are probably a few coaches that would like to take a shot or two at referees who have abused their positions as well.


4 responses to “Adults are Stupid!

  • Brenda Clanton

    Not only in sports, but in other areas. Small things that really doesn’t matter and we make such a big deal out of it. I’m trying so hard as a grandparent to see through their eyes. Our world is so different than when I was growing up or is it really!
    I know you are great as a ref, I’ve seen you in action.

  • Greg England

    It would be interesting to know how many of the refs are still in the association there. I worked games in that area in the mid 70’s through the early 90’s. About 12 seasons, I think.

  • Meowmix

    As a “grandparent” in the bleachers, I’ve seen most of this, except for the guy jerking the kid’s arm. We have seen coaches yelling at their teams as if the kids’ lives depended on sinking a ball. And the kids? Mostly, they’re just having a good time!!

  • U Know Who :)

    As a parent of one of your former baseball players….I must once again remind you that even though you are not perfect (as none of us are), you once taught a 10 & 11 yr old baseball team an awesome lesson one season about kindness, compassion, and love for others who are less fortunate. The child on the other team who hit a home-run and won the game for his team due to the kindness of our team will remember that day forever. As will the boys who helped him from our team. Lessons, both good and bad, are taught by every coach in every sport every day….they may just not know it or realize it.

    Have a blessed day!

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