James 3:5 says, “So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. A tiny spark can set a great forest on fire.” I have experienced it tonight–both from things that were said to me and things I’ve said. James goes on to say that if a person can control the tongue he could achieve perfection. Let me tell you that I am not even close!!
I wish our children could just once feel the pain of the words they say to us when they are angry. When a child tries to say things out of anger just to hurt their parents, I believe this to be one of the top things children do to dishonor parents. In some respects I guess I had this pronounced on me by my parents. I remember mom saying, “Just wait till you have children of your own–then you’ll understand.” How right she was! I am seeing the fruition of those words. I know they are not perfect, but children just cannot grab the full essence of pain that a parent suffers when being ridiculed, put off, or told to get away from them.
I do not know just how to handle this situation, but I think I’m going to try the “give them a dose of their own medicine approach.” I feel like just distancing myself for a while to let them feel a deep sense of pain and maybe even a little abandonment. I don’t want this to last, but I would like to think that if I did this, a lesson would be learned and a relationship made better. I just don’t know if that is the right thing to do. I certainly don’t know if it would bring the right kind of results either.
I think God certainly knows how I feel. I know I, as a child of His, have disappointed Him on many occasions only to have His full forgiveness. Grace and mercy are blessings for which we can never tell Him thank you enough.
I don’t know if this makes any sense to any of you. I have a sneaky suspicion that the parents who read this will get it just fine.